Free Love Letters - Real Men Send Love Letters
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By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters Published: Tuesday, 11 September 07 - 07:04 PM (GMT +10:00) Last Updated: Friday, 21 September 07 - 08:18 AM (GMT +10:00) |
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Here at Free Love Letters we have been asked why it is that some men have no issue sending love letters and some do.
Far be it from me to claim to be a love therapist (those people have a degree in psychology!) but I do think I know just a little about men, and how they dislike appearing vulnerable.
Writing love letters or poetry has, over the centuries, been admired as an art to be mastered by both men and women. Romantic literature though, was not always what it seemed. Court language (from where "courting" originated) was more politics by expressing admiration in as flowery terms as possible, rather than any expression of "true love".
Shakespeare's famous sonnet 130 is often seen as the anti-love sonnet as it does paint his mistress as some beauteous creature, but as a natural woman.
Sonnet 130
by William Shakespeare
My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun;Coral is far more red than her lips' red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damask'd, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground:
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.
Onwards through history men have not been averse to penning their love. In war especially, men have put pen to paper to express how they felt about the pain of separation from the one they loved.
But somewhere along the line being romantic became a threat to a man's masculinity.
Feminism may have had a hand in the demise of the love letter. Or maybe television and typewriters. But whatever it was there has been a decline in the social acceptability for a male to the object of his affection. Which is a shame.
Some points to ponder if you are a male and you feel weird about writing a love letter.
- studies have shown that women bond quicker with a man that appears slightly vulnerable
- investing yourself in a letter is recognized and appreciated by women (note I do not say girls)
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| I have adored that sonnet since I first (...) | Tina Kubala | 11/07/07 |
| i want u | thomas | 10/15/08 |
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Top | Reply to this Author: Tina Kubala (http://tinakubala.com) Date Posted: 07 Nov 2007 04:03 PM (GMT +10:00) I have adored that sonnet since I first read it in 9th grade. It's much like a romanance novel were the couple are "flawed" - I love it because I can see myself. |
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Top | Reply to this Title: i want u Author: thomas (http://yahoo) Date Posted: 15 Oct 2008 05:34 PM (GMT +10:00) i want to exprese my pleaser to u. |
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