Free Love Letters - How Long Is Too Long?
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Monday, 24 September 07 - 05:31 PM (GMT +10:00) By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters |
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While you are free handing your love letters you may be tempted to think that quantity means more than quality. That is not true with anything to do with love. A good diamond is better than a flawed big diamond, a long unpleasant kiss is not better than a short heartfelt one. Same goes for love letters.
Do not be fooled into thinking five pages of ramble will be better than 5 paragraphs that say exactly how you think.
Remember that in writing a love letter you are telling your loved one about the sensual (as in the 5 senses) feelings they arouse in you. This needs only a mention rather than an essay on each. Like a good book, much is left to the imagination of the reader to link your words to what they feel.
Yes that sounds all very clinical but it is how our human minds and emotions work, we link what we know to what we are reading. We then use our imagination to feel the rest. So if you are explaining right down to the sub atomic particle how you feel for your partner you have probably gone way too far!
Free Love Letters - Real Men Send Love Letters
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Tuesday, 11 September 07 - 07:04 PM (GMT +10:00) By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters |
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Here at Free Love Letters we have been asked why it is that some men have no issue sending love letters and some do.
Far be it from me to claim to be a love therapist (those people have a degree in psychology!) but I do think I know just a little about men, and how they dislike appearing vulnerable.
Writing love letters or poetry has, over the centuries, been admired as an art to be mastered by both men and women. Romantic literature though, was not always what it seemed. Court language (from where "courting" originated) was more politics by expressing admiration in as flowery terms as possible, rather than any expression of "true love".
Shakespeare's famous sonnet 130 is often seen as the anti-love sonnet as it does paint his mistress as some beauteous creature, but as a natural woman.
Sonnet 130
by William Shakespeare
My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun;Coral is far more red than her lips' red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damask'd, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground:
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.
Onwards through history men have not been averse to penning their love. In war especially, men have put pen to paper to express how they felt about the pain of separation from the one they loved.
But somewhere along the line being romantic became a threat to a man's masculinity.
Feminism may have had a hand in the demise of the love letter. Or maybe television and typewriters. But whatever it was there has been a decline in the social acceptability for a male to the object of his affection. Which is a shame.
Some points to ponder if you are a male and you feel weird about writing a love letter.
- studies have shown that women bond quicker with a man that appears slightly vulnerable
- investing yourself in a letter is recognized and appreciated by women (note I do not say girls)
Free Love Letters - The Forums!
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Thursday, 30 August 07 - 09:35 PM (GMT +10:00) By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters |
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Announcing our new Free Love Letters forum! If you look in the sidebar to the left you will see that we now have a forum where you can ask any question you like about writing love letters and I will answer them.
Please sign up and ask away!
Free Love Letters - When Is Soppy TOO Soppy?
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Wednesday, 29 August 07 - 07:40 PM (GMT +10:00) By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters |
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When you let your emotions run free, then your love letters may be just a teensy bit over the top.
Actually they can go over the top of Mt Everest and down the other side.If you are not a naturally soppy (overly sentimental) person then please please do NOT write in that vein. Cringing at your own creation is likely to bring on the same response from the person reading it.
Write in your own voice, and do not feel embarrassed or worried if things do go hearts and puppy-dogs if that is where you really want to go. But if you are writing something because you think that is how a love letter should sound, then sorry, you are setting yourself up as something you are not (nor want to be!).
The toughest of the tough can write a love letter, using their own expressions and voice. They just need to look within, as per my earlier post, and get the genuine things that they love about that person.
History shows that love letters have been written in the worst situations. From the trenches of war, to explorers and convicts, all written in the voice of the composer, and nary a kitten in sight!
If you ARE a sentimental person who is naturally flowery in your speech and writing, then go for it! Free love letters from your imagination and make them a tangible token of your esteem.
Write Your Own Love Letters
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Tuesday, 28 August 07 - 10:22 PM (GMT +10:00) By Annie Reynolds in Learn To Write Love Letters |
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5 Easy Steps To Free Love Letters From Your Imagination
1. Relax and close your eyes
You want to write this letter so badly, but every time you put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) the words just won't come out right.
Relax and close your eyes.
Now think of the little things about this person that truly attract you.
First think of the physical things that draw you to them. Smile, eyes, hair......
Now focus on their voice and words. Think about what they have said to you that has excited you, or make your heart pound....
Remember how they smell...
Now on their actions. The little things on a daily basis that they do that you appreciate and recognise, the goodbye kiss before work, the special meals, the help with a chore...
2. Now list those things
Each of these things will be part of your letter, so don't be too stingy with what you write. Yet also one of the list can be the basis for a single letter.
3. Start with the biggest thing you want to say
Is it "I love you", "I want you to know that I love you", "I want you to know how much you mean to me", "I want you to know how much I appreciate you"....
Figure out exactly what it is you want to get across.
4. Pick out items from your list that best illustrate what you want to say
Examples:
I love you and every time you look at me and smile that feeling just gets stronger
I want you to know that I love you, and that when we are apart I miss the smell of your hair
I want you to know how much you mean to me, I cannot imagine a day going by without hearing your beautiful voice
5. Now write it !
Start stringing those sentences together and you are on your way.
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